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My name is Maryam Lemu, and it is wonderful to have you here.I am Maryam Lemu, a relationship expert with over three decades of experience in marriage, public speaking, and personal development. I have travelled globally, facilitating seminars and retreats on marital and premarital topics, team building, and effective communication. My 33-year marriage to my husband, Sa’id, has been a journey of self-discovery, spiritual growth, and true partnership, inspiring me to create this platform to help others make their marriages thrive. At the Maryam Lemu Marriage Academy, you will find a wealth of resources, including videos, free PDFs, marriage tips, and my 72-video certified premarital masterclass. I am passionate about character building, mentoring, and coaching. Thank you for trusting me to guide you on this lifelong journey. Welcome to the Maryam Lemu Marriage Academy.
I Want to show you how you can find, build, and nurture your own unique love story. I will teach you how to develop a true partnership and be intentional in your marriage. In this course, I share with you, the good, bad and ugly truths. Watch the Trailer below and whenever you are ready for this exceptional journey, register and I will be with you every step of the way.
The Maryam Lemu
CERTIFIED PREMARITAL MASTERCLASS
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Marriage Gems
Keep the romance alive: Continuously nurture your emotional connection and intimacy by surprising your partner, planning date nights, and expressing your love and appreciation regularly.This applies to both of you.
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Foreplay for most women doesn’t start in bed. It begins with intentional listening. Validating her. Seeing her. Empathizing with her. Supporting her. Talking to her. Settling a fight. Allowing her to be vulnerable. Only then will she be willing to bring your fantasies to life.
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Most women make love emotionally. Intimacy for a woman starts with a deep connection with her spouse. She has to feel safe; she has to trust, and she has to be vulnerable.
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Encourage open dialogue: Foster a safe environment where both partners feel comfortable discussing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns without fear of judgement or criticism.
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Mutually create a shared vision for your relationship: This should include your personal, spiritual, professional, social, and relationship goals. This will help you stay aligned and focused on your future together.
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Maintain a genuine interest in your partner's thoughts, feelings, and experiences: This will foster a deep sense of connection and understanding.
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Show gratitude: Express appreciation and gratitude for your partner's love, support, and kindness. Show gratitude for the littlest things. This will feed their spirit and reinforce a positive and nurturing environment within your marriage.
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Invest in your relationship: Continuously prioritize and invest time and energy into your marriage. Treat your relationship as a living, growing entity that requires care and attention to flourish.
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Never use what your spouse has told you in confidence against them. Never betray their trust.
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Prioritize quality time: Spend time together regularly without distractions. Engage in meaningful conversations and share activities. Keep that phone away. Don’t give the unseen more priority over the ones who matter most.
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Water that sits still starts to smell. Inject variety into the relationship. Boredom is a recipe for disaster in marriage.
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Cheating doesn’t start with sex. It starts with sneaky conversations with members of the opposite gender.
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Zina is not only done through intercourse alone. There is zina of the eyes, zina of the hand, zina of the tongue. Remember, zina is zina!
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Marriage is not hard. Human beings are hard. If we put Allah first, kindness, affection, fidelity, contentment, and compassion into the marriage, the marriage will not be hard.
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It’s okay to fight. Fights don’t destroy a marriage; bad manners do. Always maintain good manners and respect, no matter how upset you get.
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Allah wants us to dwell in "peace and tranquillity" in marriage. This can never be attained if we allow disrespect, infidelity, oppression, or contempt to exist in our relationship.
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Never allow yourself to get hurtso much that you start to say, "I am used to it.
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If you are walking on eggshells in someone’s presence, that person is not good for you! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
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Your marriage won’t last because of the good times alone; it will last because you handled the bad times with love, dignity, respect, loyalty, and compassion.
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You’re not grown until you know how to communicate effectively, listen attentively, apologise when wrong, be truthful always, say please and thank you, and accept responsibility for your actions without blaming someone else.
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People ask me this question often: “Should we stay in a bad marriage for the sake of the kids?” The answer is, don’t stay in a bad marriage for the sake of the kids … instead, fight for a GREAT marriage for your sake and for the sake of your kids, until you have exhausted all options.
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A good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make. And you have to keep on making it.
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Don’t let the world fool you. The magic isn’t in getting married; it is in staying married and building an amazing life together.
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Ignoring red flags before marriage is like ignoring the red of traffic lights. It’s best to slow down on orange and stop, then proceed, at the risk of a terrible accident.
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Cultivate shared interests with your spouse: Engage in activities that you both enjoy to strengthen your connection. Shared hobbies can help keep your relationship fresh and exciting.
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Set boundaries: Do not keep silent over things that make you uncomfortable. Do not downplay or laugh at things that hurt you. This rule should apply to EVERYONE, including your spouse.
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Show respect even when upset: Treat your spouse with kindness, courtesy, compassion, and consideration in every interaction.
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Maintain a sense of humor in your marriage: Laugh together and have a good sense of humor. Don’t be too serious and stiff. Laughter is such an important ingredient in a successful marriage.
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Never compare your relationship or your spouse to anyone else’s. This is marriage suicide!
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Practice patience: Your spouse is not perfect, and neither are you. Mutually agree to work on and support each other on a journey of personal evolution.
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Embrace and respect your partner's unique qualities, interests, and perspectives. Do not try to adjust them to become your bespoke spouse. You don’t have to like or enjoy the same things.
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Understand each other's love languages: Discover how you and your partner best express and receive love. This will enable you to communicate affection more effectively and strengthen your bond. This is a superpower to have in any relationship.
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Prioritize self-care: Ensure you maintain your well-being and happiness by dedicating time for self-love and self-care. A healthy and happy individual contributes to a strong and successful marriage.
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Show appreciation: Express gratitude for the little things your spouse does, and don't ever take them for granted.
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Keep the romance alive: Surprise your spouse with small, lovely gestures and affectionate moments. A gentle touch. The squeeze of a hand. A rub on the back. Lock eyes. A hug. A gentle kiss. Kind words. Never let the flames of passion turn into ashes in your relationship.
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Be a good listener: Pay attention to your spouse's needs. Empathize and provide support without judgment. Seek to truly understand their spoken and unspoken words.
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Show appreciation: Express gratitude for the little things your spouse does, and don't ever take them for granted.
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Cultivate trust: Be reliable, transparent, and honest. Keep your promises and stay true to your word.
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Practice forgiveness: Let go of grudges, accept a sincere apology, and work together to move past any conflicts or misunderstandings. If you don’t forgive, the pain will never stop.
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Nurture your friendship: Maintain a strong bond by valuing your spouse's companionship, sharing laughter, engaging in fun activities, travel, and being each other's bestest best friend.
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Strive to make your spouse your best friend: Passion comes and goes in seasons, but having a spouse as your buddy, your “mate” is constant companionship.
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Hold on tight to Allah’s rope: Let Him be your compass, your guide, and your personal qiblah in your relationship.
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Marriage is a team sport: Support each other's goals and share common goals. Make decisions together and collaborate on tackling life's challenges.
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Couples both have rights and obligations in marriage: Fulfilling your obligations to one another is what completes half of your faith, not just the nikkah.
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You must have relationship goals: If you don’t know where you’re going, then any road will take you there.
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Be your spouse's biggest cheerleader: The captain of their supporters club. Praise them! Validate them! Compliment them! Show them that you are proud of them, don’t just say it.
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Make your house a home, a sanctuary, a place you look forward to coming back to every day.
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If your spouse derives more pleasure from outside the home, you run the risk of losing them to someone else. You have to aim to be the one-stop-shop- for ALL their needs, wants and fantasies.
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You must learn to regulate your ego. An ego that’s too high means you will be cocky and arrogant. Too low means a low self-esteem and insecurity. Stay in the middle and regulate it.
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Communication is one of the most important elements of a successful marriage. Learn it!
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Timing is everything. Learn to bring up important issues at the right time. You run the risk of not being heard or causing a fight simply because you raised issues at the wrong time.
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Let your tongue be light and let it flow with words of gratitude and affirmation to your spouse.
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Marriage can be such a beautiful thing if you get it right. So show up! Be intentional! Give 110% and be committed for life!
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Be ruthless with your bad habits. They can make or break you and your relationships.
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It is your responsibility to protect your spouse from your relatives and friends. It is part of your obligations to them under Sharia. In other words, Allah will ask you about this.
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Learn effective speaking, listening, and timing. This can prevent many problems in marriage. Ignorance is not an excuse.
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Practice marriage with the kind of meticulousness and excellence any act done to please Allah deserves.
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Do not marry a work in progress or a potential. Marry the person you are courting as they are, with no expectation that they will ever change, or that you will change them.
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There is no miracle lecture, potion, or “juju” you can take that will make your marriage work. You both have to equally work on the relationship to see results.
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If you don’t like how your marriage is going now, you both have to go back to the drawing board and create a goal for your relationship. You have to identify and address the root cause of the problems you are facing. You both have to commit to one another and the relationship for it to work.
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Remember, marriage isn't a competition; it's a partnership. Together, you both can achieve more than either of you can alone. Remember, Allah says in Surah Ar-Rum 30:21, "And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for people who reflect."
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We owe it to our unborn children to marry a good mother or father for them. Allah will hold us accountable for this.
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Never underestimate the power of small acts of kindness and appreciation. They can strengthen the bond between you and your spouse in remarkable ways. What will you do today?
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Your marriage is a reflection of the effort you put into it. Consistent effort yields long-lasting rewards.
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Know Yourself-Take a Personality Test
Piece Together Your Personality Puzzle
It's so important that you know your strengths and areas for improvement, as well as how you relate to others. Self-awareness is an invaluable asset to have in a marriage. I've added a few links just for you! They contain personality tests for you to explore. I highly encourage you to take these tests with your spouse or potential partner. This will give you both a lot to talk about, but it will also help you understand each other's personalities better. Have fun.
5 Love Languages Test
Take the 5 Love Languages Test today and set out on a journey toward more profound and meaningful relationships.
Truity Test
Are you ready for a journey of self-discovery? These tests help you learn more about yourself and improve your life.
Equilibria Personality Diversity Indicator
Take the Equilibria Personality Diversity Indicator now and embark on a journey of self-discovery and deeper connections with those around you.
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Join Maryam Lemu on an Audio Journey
You can also follow Maryam Lemu on an audio journey, available on:Spotify, Apple Podcast and Muslim Central. Click on the Phone Mockup to listen.
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Insightful Resources
As promised, here are some awesome reads and articles I can't recommend enough.
Explore a treasury of insightful resources that illuminate diverse perspectives and foster marital and intellectual growth, providing a profound journey into marriage, knowledge, and wisdom.
Endorsements
Mufti Menk
Sister Maryam, who has years of experience in counselling and marital guidance, has been working on this project for a very long time. I’m very proud of her achievement in putting together the different aspects of this subject so beautifully. Alhamdulillah.
Omar Suleiman
Mrs. Lemu’s platform, Marriage and Family Central, focuses on strengthening bonds and reinforcing Islamic family values. I am pleased to recommend this new 72-episode Certified Premarital Masterclass, which, I believe, will In Sha Allah, help create mutually fulfilling, long-lasting marriages.
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FAQs
Which school of thought is this course based on?
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This course is as neutral as it gets when it comes to talking about finding someone and marriage from an Islamic perspective. Maryam puts a Western twist to her course, where she talks facts and experiences, and this course isn’t to do with fiqh or anything directly related to Islamic teachings.
I'm divorced. Is this course ideal for me?
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It’s ideal for anyone who wants to build a happy home. In fact, using your past marriage experience as a reference can help you understand yourself better, identify what went wrong, and most importantly, what you can do to make it work in the future, insha Allah. She talks in depth about identifying triggers and healing from scars from the past, which is very important for anyone looking to remarry.
What is Maryam's teaching style?
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She is very articulate and clear in her words. She is down to earth and says it as it is. No frills, no “shishi fufu” stuff. Her teaching style is engaging, reflective, and motivational. She shares many stories from her own personal experience and those of the clients she has counseled for over 20 years.
What are the key ingredients for a successful and lasting marriage?
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A successful marriage requires open communication, trust, mutual respect, emotional intimacy, and a shared sense of purpose. Additionally, flexibility, empathy, and a commitment to growth are essential for long-lasting happiness.
What are some effective strategies for resolving conflicts in a marriage?
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Conflict resolution involves active listening, empathy, and compromise. It's essential to focus on the issue at hand, avoid personal attacks, and work together to find solutions that benefit both partners. Seeking professional help is also a viable option when conflicts persist.
What are some common challenges couples face during the first year of marriage, and how can they overcome them?
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Common challenges include adjusting to living together, merging finances, and managing expectations. Overcoming these challenges involves patience, communication, and a willingness to compromise. Premarital counselling can also be helpful.
How can couples balance their responsibilities as parents while also nurturing their marriage?
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Balancing parenting and marriage involves prioritizing both roles. Schedule regular date nights or alone time, delegate parenting responsibilities, and communicate openly about your needs as individuals and as parents. A strong partnership benefits your children too.
What are some strategies for rekindling love and connection in a marriage that may have grown distant?
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Rekindling love involves rediscovering common interests, spending quality time together, and initiating open conversations about feelings. Couples can also benefit from seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor to address underlying issues.
What are the benefits of premarital counselling, and what can couples expect from it?
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Premarital counseling helps couples build a strong foundation for their marriage. It covers topics like communication, conflict resolution, financial planning, and goal-setting. Couples can expect to gain valuable skills and insights that will benefit their relationship.
What are some strategies for building emotional resilience and coping with adversity as a couple?
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Building emotional resilience involves supporting each other through tough times, seeking professional help when necessary, and finding healthy ways to cope with stress. Maintain open communication, and remember that facing challenges together can strengthen your bond.
What should couples do when they feel their relationship has become routine or mundane?
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When a relationship feels routine, couples can spice things up by trying new activities, planning surprise date nights, and openly discussing their desires and fantasies. Rediscovering excitement and spontaneity can reignite the spark.
How can couples maintain intimacy and romance in their relationship over time?
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Couples can maintain intimacy by regularly expressing love and appreciation, prioritizing quality time together, and exploring new experiences together. Keeping the romance alive involves small gestures, surprise acts of affection, and open communication about desires and fantasies.
How can couples navigate financial issues and plan for their future together?
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Couples should have open and honest conversations about finances, create a budget together, and set financial goals. It's crucial to save for the future, reduce debt, and regularly revisit financial plans to ensure they align with both partners' aspirations.
How can couples maintain a sense of individual identity while also being part of a partnership?
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Maintaining individuality involves pursuing personal interests and goals, setting boundaries, and respecting each other's need for space and self-expression. Healthy couples encourage and support each other's individual growth.
How can couples keep the spark alive in their marriage after many years together?
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Keeping the spark alive requires ongoing effort. Couples should continue to date, surprise each other, explore shared interests, and communicate openly about their desires and fantasies. Emotional and physical intimacy should remain a priority.
How can couples support each other when facing external stressors, such as work-related challenges or family issues?
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Supporting each other during external stressors involves active listening, providing emotional support, and offering practical assistance when needed. Couples should maintain a united front and tackle challenges together as a team.
How can couples handle cultural or religious differences when it comes to parenting and raising children?
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Handling cultural or religious differences in parenting requires open discussions, compromise, and a shared approach that respects both partners' backgrounds. Seek to find common ground that aligns with your values and beliefs.
What should couples do if they feel their emotional needs are not being met in the relationship?
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If emotional needs are not being met, couples should have an honest conversation about their feelings and expectations. Partners can work together to understand each other's needs and make adjustments to better fulfill them.
I'm a guy. Can I take this course?
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Of Course! Maryam covers all the topics for both men and women. Which means that both genders can benefit.
I'm in a marriage but having a few issues. Will this course help?
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Yes this course will help. You can also book a counselling session with Maryam Lemu.
I don't have a potential spouse in my life. Will this course still work?
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This course can be taken even if you have yet to find your potential spouse. You’ll learn so much to prepare you and equip you for when the time is right. You can enroll in the course at the age of 18.
I don't have a potential spouse in my life. Will this course still work?
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This course can be taken even if you have yet to find your potential spouse. You’ll learn so much to prepare you and equip you for when the time is right. You can enroll in the course at the age of 18.
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